Updated on
18.2.25
As a new parent, hearing your baby cry in their sleep can be both puzzling and heart-wrenching. This is especially common in newborns, typically during the first 3-4 months, as their sleep cycles are shorter and can cause them to stir, whimper, or cry briefly. While it’s most typical in these early months, older babies can experience it, too, particularly during transitions between sleep stages. So, don’t panic—this is a normal part of their sleep development at any stage. We at Aumio assure you that baby crying in sleep is more common than you might think. In many cases, it’s completely normal.
You might wonder: Are they uncomfortable? Hungry? Dreaming? Or is something else going on? In this guide, we’ll dive into the reasons behind this and, more importantly, how to soothe your little one when it happens.
Babies cry in their sleep for many reasons, most of which are part of their natural development. In this guide, we’ll cover:
First, let’s demystify the reasons why this happens. Babies have unique sleep patterns and developmental stages that can make crying during sleep a common occurrence.
Newborns' sleep cycles typically last 30-50 minutes, though some may be as short as 20 minutes. As babies grow, their sleep cycles gradually lengthen. By around 3-4 months, cycles extend to 50-60 minutes, eventually reaching 60-90 minutes as they continue to develop.
Parent insight: Think of these moments as your baby adjusting to the rhythm of sleep. It’s like their tiny body is learning how to sleep effectively.
While we can’t say for sure if babies dream, their brains are highly active during REM (Rapid Eye Movement) sleep. This stage of sleep is thought to be linked to memory and emotional processing, which might explain why some babies cry or appear unsettled during it.
Your baby might wake and cry because they’re hungry, have a wet diaper, or feel too hot or cold. Newborns, in particular, have tiny tummies that require frequent feeding, even at night.
The Moro reflex, or startle reflex, can cause sudden jerky movements that wake your baby and result in crying. This reflex is more common in younger babies and typically fades by 4–6 months.
If your baby is a bit older, teething might be the culprit. Even during sleep, the discomfort from erupting teeth can cause discomfort and crying.
Gas, colic, or reflux can make sleep uncomfortable for babies, leading to crying or restlessness. If your baby arches their back, spits up frequently, or seems in pain after feeding, these could be signs of reflux.
Guess What? Most of these reasons are part of normal growth and development. Your baby is learning, adapting, and growing every day!
Understanding why your baby cries in their sleep is the first step to addressing their needs. Let’s explore how to differentiate normal discomfort from signs of real distress.
One of the hardest things as a parent is figuring out whether your baby’s cries require immediate attention or if they’re just overstimulated. Here’s how to differentiate:
Friendly Reminder: Babies are noisy sleepers! Not every sound means they need you to rush in. Sometimes, giving them a moment to self-settle can help them develop better sleep habits.
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Now that we’ve covered when to act, let's dive into ways you can soothe your baby when they cry in their sleep.
When your baby cries in their sleep, your instinct might be to pick them up immediately. However, taking a more measured approach can sometimes be more effective. Here’s how to soothe your baby:
Babies often cry briefly during light sleep cycles and may settle themselves within a few seconds. Give your baby a moment before intervening.
Example: If your baby whimpers for a few seconds but continues sleeping, it’s likely just a transition between sleep stages. No action needed!
If your baby seems unsettled, try placing a reassuring hand on their chest or patting them softly. This can provide comfort without fully waking them.
Parent Tip: Use a soft, rhythmic patting motion to mimic the sensation of a heartbeat.
If your baby uses a pacifier, it can help soothe them back to sleep. Sucking is a natural self-soothing mechanism for babies.
Safety Reminder: Ensure the pacifier is clean, and never attach it to a string or cord during sleep. This is to prevent choking hazards or strangulation, as the cord can get tangled, posing a serious risk to the baby’s safety while they sleep.
Check that the room is at a comfortable temperature (68–72°F), use white noise to mask household sounds, and ensure their bassinet or crib is safe and cozy.
For younger babies (up to 3-4 months), swaddling can help reduce the startle reflex and make them feel snug and secure. Just be sure to stop swaddling once they show signs of rolling over.
Important note: If your baby’s crying persists and they seem in pain or discomfort, it’s always okay to pick them up and soothe them fully.
While soothing strategies can help, creating a nurturing environment can reduce sleep-time crying altogether. Let’s explore some proactive tips for bedtime success.
While it’s impossible to prevent all sleep-time crying, these strategies can help minimize it:
1. Follow a consistent bedtime routine: Babies thrive on predictability. A calming bedtime routine signals that it’s time to wind down for sleep.
Example Routine:
2. Track wake windows: Keeping your baby awake for the right amount of time between naps can prevent overtiredness or under-tiredness, both of which can lead to crying.
3. Burp after feedings: Gas buildup can cause discomfort during sleep. Ensure your baby is properly burped after each feeding to reduce the likelihood of sleep disruptions.
Parent tip: Hold your baby upright for at least 30 minutes and gently pat their back for 5–10 minutes after feeding.
4. Use a sleep sack: You can start using a sleep sack from birth. It's a safe option for newborns and infants, providing warmth and comfort without the risks of loose bedding.
Why it helps: Sleep sacks provide a snug feeling, similar to swaddling, and help babies transition smoothly as they grow.
5. Create a relaxing sleep environment: The right environment can significantly reduce sleep-time crying.
Parent insight: At certain developmental stages (e.g., 4 months, 8 months), babies may experience temporary disruptions in sleep. Stay patient and stick to your routine as much as possible.
Tip: Learn more about managing sleep regressions in our guide: Sleep Regression and How to Manage It.
Even with the best practices, there are moments when sleep struggles persist. Let’s talk about when to seek help and what else you can try.
Most of the time, crying in sleep is normal and temporary, but there are instances when consulting a pediatrician is essential.
Signs it’s time to call your doctor:
Hearing your baby cry in their sleep can tug at your heartstrings, but it’s often just a normal part of their development. Babies are adjusting to the world around them, and crying is one of their primary ways of communicating—even while they sleep.
Parenthood is full of moments like these: a mix of wonder, worry, and joy. You’re doing an amazing job navigating this journey. Remember, those cries won’t last forever, and with each passing day, you’re helping your baby learn, grow, and thrive.
If you’re feeling overwhelmed, take a breath and lean on your support system—whether it’s a partner, friend, or pediatrician. You’re not alone, and every small step you take is helping your baby feel safe and loved.
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